What’s Casper The Friendly Ghost Got To Do With This?

A day after my post about ending friendships and not wanting to be “ghosted,” the brilliant Emily wrote a piece offering an opposing viewpoint. I’m reposting it below and coining a new term: Diablog. (might not be new. didn’t bother checking)

I strive to be fair and have open discussions about important things. Like childhood cartoons.

What was Casper’s problem?

He desperately wanted friends, but everyone was scared of him because he was a ghost. I relate to that so deeply. I mean, I wasn’t a ghost, but I also wasn’t seen.

I was a smarty-pants, “bossy” girl, who could pick the game and save the day…but no one liked her.

My sense of self is as intertwined with a desperate desire for friends as Casper’s was. But what constitutes labels like “friend,” “best friend,” “ex-friend,” “un-friend,” or even “ghost,” is a conversation I continue to find fascinatingly relevant. It comes down to Relationship. Are you in one? How do you end one? Is it “better” if both sides participate, even in the ending?

Check it out and leave comments, or join the diablog, make it a triablog (no, that’s just silly), and continue the discussion in your blogsphere!

Confessions of a Ghost



I…I kind of appreciate ghosting. I view it less as losing a friend and more as simply letting things lapse, putting your favorite book on the shelf and leaving the story there, between its covers. Someone’s if you pull the book off the shelf (run into the friend) you realize the book was a good memory but doesn’t really hold up now, and you can let the dust settle. Other times the story was just waiting, it’s still good, and was simply waiting for the right time to be read again (and the friendship picks up, catching up quickly and reveling in each other like no time has passed).



Is that “ghosting?” What you describe doesn’t sound intentional; disappearing after a conflict, but just a natural lapse. Do you find you do it or that it is done to you, more often?

What do you think?